Holiday Stress Part One Cards and Letters
For my caregiver friends busy with family, elderly parents and others, does it seem the holiday season landed over night? With it more responsibility is added to our over-filled calendars. Can you relate?
Before you stress thinking about extra work, grab a pen and paper. We’ll spend a few minutes looking at things that bug you when left unattended. I have found my life goes much smoother if I can keep the bugs out!
List things that seem to eat up your time and thoughts. Look objectively at the whole picture. When you finish, circle no more than three things that bother you most. If you are like me, it is the little things that seem to weigh heavy day after day, not unlike a tiny gravel in your shoe.
My top three will seem as nothing compared to yours. That is what we are wanting, to identify the things real and personal to you. Using mine as an example should encourage you to work on your list. (Remember to contact me anytime.)
Number one on my list used to bug me every year. Energetic, organized friends and family sent out wonderful, newsy cards right after Thanksgiving. Immediately I felt guilty for not having done mine. I barely had time to read the letters, certainly not answer them, make a call or send a card. They seemed to stack up all over the place and I could never imagine throwing them away unacknowledged.
I need to say here that I love getting cards and letters, anytime. People spend time to write a letter or choose a card. They spend money on cards and stamps and trips to the mailbox. I value each precious card I get. It isn’t the cards or letters, it is what to do with them. I don’t want them lost in a bunch of junk mail or tossed out when read.
Here is a simple solution I began a few years ago.
1. Provide a place for them. I found a colorful basket with a handle at a thrift shop that is perfect. The cards can stand on end and be easily seen.
2. I keep an inexpensive address book at the back of the basket to jot down current addresses or personal information gleaned from the letters. I put return addresses on the back of the card so it’s ready to answer.
3. I put the “Blessing Basket” on the same table each year for all to enjoy. I have read them many times over to those in my care. The colorful pictures are good conversation starters with children or elderly patients. When appropriate, share stories about the sender.
4. In January and February, I often answer the cards, a few at a time. Simply pulling one out at random is like entertaining an unexpected guest. As time permits, I write notes even to those who simply signed their cards. What beautiful “visit” I’ve had on dreary winter days. When I cared for Mother, I wrote letters for her in January, it was a fun time.
5. My basket of cards is also a prayer reminder; thankful to God for each person who took time to send one. Praying for their needs at least once or twice a year makes me feel closer to them. Now I look forward to those early birds and their notes.
We’ll take on #2 on my list in our next visit. I think you may have a similar item on your list; it has to do with gifts.
In the meantime, I want to say I am so very, very thankful for each of you taking time to “listen” to my chatter. I pray for you and do hope to be a help an encouragement in your journey.
Hugs,
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Great ideas,,, seems like we try to do too many events in November and December each year,,,,, be safe, no school tomorrow,,,roads not safe..blessing to you and Russell
Diana,
You are so right about our crowding so much into November and December.
I am making a concentrated effort to allow more time for people and less for “stuff” that weighs me down.
Blessings to you.
I like the list of things that bug me. Definitely going to do that.
Thanks, Shyre, for dropping by.
Yes, that list has proven helpful in my life. I need to learn to follow through better but it’s a start. I want to spend more time with people and less with “stuff”. Blessings and Hugs
Susie, Loved #5 but was looking forward to it being a MIRACLE CARD where all you had to do was just hit CLICK and all your friend and loved one got it. LOL Love you both!
Pam, thanks for your note.
You are so funny, loved your idea of the Miracle Card! Hmmm!
You gave me food for thought … if I don’t forget!
Hugs and love to all.
Hi Sis,
Only you could give me a NEW and fresh idea of what to do with one of the many baskets I have and like, but can’t think of enough things to use them for.
Regina,
Thanks for letting me know you found this helpful. You are right, we just cannot toss our beautiful baskets. It’s amazing how much cleaner the house feels when I have things tucked in pretty baskets. Trust you will get lots of greetings and fill yours up. And, don’t forget #5 for January and February. Hugs to you.